Custom Grief Ritual
Not every loss gets witnessed. Ritual gives you a way to honor what mattered, tell the truth, and mark the threshold.
What this is
Some losses do not have a clear container.
No funeral. Or bad funeral. No communal moment. No words that fit. Just a quiet ache that keeps showing up in the body and in the ordinary.
A custom grief ritual is a personalized ceremony designed around your story, your values, and what needs to be honored. It can be spiritual, not spiritual, or somewhere in between. You can do it in private or have it be shared. It can be simple or layered. The goal is the same.
To witness what was lost.
Make room for love and grief in the same breath.
To take a step forward without pretending it did not matter.
What rituals can help with
Ritual is especially helpful when:
- A death did not receive the kind of service you needed
- A relationship ended, and there was no closure that felt true
- You lost a dream, a season of life, or a version of yourself
- A move, diagnosis, or transition left you disoriented
- You are carrying grief that feels stuck or unspoken
- You want something meaningful that is not performative
Examples of rituals we can create
- A private memorial ritual for someone who died without a service
- An anniversary or birthday remembrance
- A letting go ritual after divorce, betrayal, estrangement, or a friendship ending
- A grief ritual for pregnancy loss or infertility
- A threshold ritual for a move, retirement, empty nest, or identity change
- A family ritual that helps people name what has changed and bless what comes next
If you are not sure what kind of ritual fits, that is normal. We can discern it together.
You can read about a ritual I created on my We Can Stay Human Substack.
How this works
- A short conversation: You tell me what happened and what you want the ritual to do. We clarify the tone, the people involved, and what language feels safe.
- Ritual design: I create a ritual that fits your story. This may include simple objects, readings, music, prompts, and a clear arc.
- The ritual: We gather in person or online. I guide the process so you do not have to carry it alone (unless you want to).
- Integration: You leave with a written copy, plus one or two practices to help you carry what opened into the rest of your life.
What this is and is not
This is:
- A grounded, human way to honor grief and meaning
- Structured enough to hold you
- Flexible enough to fit you
This is not:
- A promise of closure
- A performance
- Therapy or medical care
If you are in crisis or do not feel safe, please seek immediate clinical support. Ritual can still be supportive, but it is not emergency care.
The next step
Book a discovery call and let’s talk about what you need.
Note: custom rituals start at $150 but pricing can vary given the time it takes not only to develop the ritual but to be with you in ritual space. If you are outside the Denver Metro Area but would like me to be physically present, travel arrangements can be discussed.